Crafting a Soul Relationship with Your Child

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Your child is not separate from you – he or she is physically connected now and will be emotionally and spiritually connected for both of your lifetimes.  And yet, this child has his or her own never-ending connection with spirit, his or her own unfolding life plan.  Parenting seems to be about switching the lifeline from you to God, or however you name the Divine, and allowing a soulful relationship to blossom without grasping the strings of control.
To counter images of yourself as a parent who sacrifices your identity for this baby, reflect on any fulfilling relationship you have experienced.  You’ll most likely notice that it’s what you bring of your authentic self to the union that ultimately makes it so satisfying. A real relationship is one in which we are seen, heard, honored, and known for our unique selves.  It’s totally possible, even necessary, to bring your authentic self to this precious relationship.  Yes, it’s important to read mothering self-help books and carefully heed your Doctor’s instructions for care giving.  But beyond all this lies the truth of two people in a relationship, two people who need to find their way to each other with grace, truth, and love. You will be so much more than simply a caregiver -- your presence and spirit matter more than your tasks and obligations.
Explore yourself deeply, what sources you, get to know how to fill your own well so that you can bring more of yourself, edges more clearly defined, to this relationship with your son or daughter. Enhancing your spirit prepares you to link at a soul level with your child.