Co-parenting with God : What a relief to know that you're not in this alone.

By:  Mimi Doe

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I don't think we as parents can be reminded often enough that loving our children deeply and authentically is the greatest gift we give them. We can become swept up in the swirl of the day-to-day choices that envelop us and forget this grounding truth.
When our decisions are made from the perspective of, "Does this choice express my deepest love and commitment to my child?" our path as spiritual parents is much less complicated. 

Let yourself off the hook for any perceived "mistakes" you have made with your kids and know that your deep love shines through. Use the opportunity of a New Year to launch into a new relationship with your son or daughter. Remember that your attitude as a parent is ultimately more important in your child's spiritual and emotional development then any enrichment classes, expensive software, exotic trips, or elaborate bedroom furniture you provide. What you do is more important than what you say, and certainly who you are is more important than what you do.

When you follow your deepest intuition on how to best help your child and when you strive to be the best person you can be, you can't go wrong.

You are a loving caregiver to this child who is on loan to you for such a short time in his/her life. You aren't parenting alone, you are co-parenting with God, or whatever your name as the Divine Presence. This was made clear to me when my daughter announced that she had picked me to be her mom. A tiny child at the time, she described how she came to select me when she was an angel in heaven. Her innocent words affected me deeply. I realized I didn't have to be the "perfect" parent in charge of this spirit's destiny if she had chosen me.

Many times we are without answers to our children’s tough questions about life, but when we understand and help our kids realize that God wants the highest and the best for us, we are not floundering alone. We begin to formulate answers to life’s dilemmas from a God-centered awareness.  What a relief to know we have an always available resource for insight into our children’s questions as well as our own. 

Sprinkle some of the following ideas into your family life to experience the bliss of co-parenting with an always available loving presence:

*Look deeply into the eyes of each of your children and see the spiritual glow that radiates through them. Thank them for picking you to be their earthly parent. They may laugh, but don't let that fool you--they know whereof you speak.

*Give thanks to the Source that guides, inspires, nurtures, and sustains you as you tend to the bodies and minds of these wise spirits housed in little bodies. Create habits as touchstones to this gratitude such as taking a moment each evening before your head hits the pillow to write down 3 things about your child you appreciate from the day.

*Let go of  any limited thinking you might have about parenting, mistakes your parents made, or the ‘shoulds’ that creep into your parenting style. You are your own person, as is your child. You both have specific gifts, talents, weaknesses, and strengths. Ask for Spirit’s help to be the ideal parent for your child’s divine plan. You and your child are together for a reason. Trust that you are perfectly matched you for your lessons on this earth. You have the ability to parent in a way that feels right to you and balances the needs of each of your children. When you love your kids and make decisions based on that love coupled with your deep intuition you are parenting in God’s light.